This year I set myself the New Year’s resolution of pushing myself out of my comfort zone. I’m such a little homebody who, self-admittedly, relies on other people for a lot of things. Although I’m generally quite a confident person, I can be very awkward and anxious in new social situations so I wanted to push myself in 2017 by stepping out of my comfort zone. Whilst I set myself other (slightly more trivial) goals, I wanted to focus mainly on my own happiness. I wasn’t initially sure how I was going to go about achieving it but what I have found is that it boils down to one main component: caring less about what other people think of you.
I agree that to some extent you should consider how you are perceived by other people, particularly those you care about. However, I think that caring too much (which I definitely used to) is not healthy. I’ll hold my hands up and say that I used to be someone who wanted to ‘fit in’ and be liked by everyone; this meant at times I wasn’t being completely true to myself. I now feel it is okay and even important to stand aside from the crowd occasionally for a concept you really believe in.
Moving to university has been a huge change for me and has demanded that I grow up and learn how to ‘adult’ (which I still struggle with at times!). However, I think it has given me the confidence to push myself out of my comfort zone and do things that I would never have dreamed of doing if I was still sat in my small hometown. I think university is one of the best and only opportunities you may have in your life to reinvent yourself and grow as a person. Moving away and meeting hundreds of new people who know nothing about you gives you the perfect opportunity to be whoever you want to be. Whilst I’m not encouraging people to become a whole different person, I think it is easier to take risks and change small things about yourself. The main thing I’ve found since moving away is that I’ve become a lot less worried about views of what I wear or my appearance in general. I find myself buying clothes now that are slightly out of my comfort zone (of the classic black jeans and converse look) and not actually caring whether other people will like what I’m wearing because I like it…and really that is all that should matter.
Another big step out of my comfort zone was publicising this blog. I’ve actually had a blog for around 2 years now but went by a different username as I didn’t want people to find out. But then I asked myself why I was embarrassed about something I was so passionate about. Why shouldn’t I share what I was writing? What was I afraid of? I’ve come to love the quote ‘Those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind’ as I really think it speaks volumes. I want to share my voice and opinions with people so that’s exactly what I’m going to do. Of course I understand there will be individuals who aren’t supportive but honestly I think that says a lot more about them than it does about me. I’m not claiming to be the world’s best makeup artist or the next big style icon but I enjoy beauty and fashion so that’s what I want to write about.
I think it’s so important to do what makes you happy because life is too short. I don’t want to look back in a few years time and regret not wearing a pair of trousers because they were a bit whacky, or not going to a party because I didn’t know many people there, or not blogging because I was worried about what other people would think. As long as you are enjoying yourself and have a good support network around you, you shouldn’t let anyone dictate how you live your life.
Be happy and be yourself!